“You are not clingy, or needy, or silly for having needs for affection and affirmation and attention within a romantic relationship. Those needs aren’t an embarrassing outgrowth of your low-self esteem or depression or whatever messy emotional issues you may have going on, that’s just basic shit that people need from each other. We of course should not make our partners responsible for meeting all of our emotional needs – it’s not someone’s else’s job to make you happy. But inside a healthy relationship, being able to show affection, pay attention, and demonstrate ‘you are amazing and important to me’ is a pleasure, not some task or burden.”
– Jennifer Peepas (via foxfoxwolf)
FUCK YO’ COUCH. You hear me?? You see all that truth above? Be ye not deceived!!!!!!!!!!
Why is thoughtfulness slowly fading? Why is creative thoughtfulness almost nonexistent? Where’s the romance in today’s technology. With so much at our fingertips, it seems it would be easier offer real world measures of consideration and sentiment. But now we lax and hold to our “liking” of posts and good morning texts.
I don’t like flowers. Does that mean I shouldn’t get a surprise at work every once and a while? What about an edible arrangement? A book? A teddy bear and a card? Write a letter. Draw a picture. Make an origami dove and have someone leave it on my desk. Like damn how hard is it to think outside of what’s comfortable.
I guess I’m expecting too much of people. I think the example above are the easy ones. They are the nonspecific ideas that anyone can apply to just about anyone.
You don’t have to spend loads of money to convey to someone that they occupy mental real estate. Offer a gesture. A physical gesture that comes to that person as more than data bits. Let them know they are more than just thoughts. “You drive me to act.” That’s a very simple yet powerful message to reveal.
We spend hours seeing people. Whether it’s social media, work, school, church, shopping, we see people or their likeness all day long. Taking someone in is as commonplace and unassuming as breathing. Being moved by someone is special. It’s a statement worth making. It’s a statement that takes us out of ourselves and gives something to someone else. That’s living. That’s loving.
I can’t wait til the day that my biggest problem is trying to one up the love of my life by giving them action; small to super huge gestures to show, remind, support and reinforce – but never to prove – our love and it’s meaning and impact on my life. It’s a show of appreciation at its finest.
The balance of the act leans itself to furthering the bond between two people. Having someone who is committed to the same level of intent is not only satisfying but securing.
A successful relationship, of any kind, is a balancing act between two people who are meeting in the middle of the teeter. You two create your rules according to your foundation. That’s your world to rule as you two see fit.
This is what we’re here to do. Create balance, create life, love, live… We can get so bogged down in the pain and stress that we forget we are surrounded by reasons to be amazed; to be thoughtful; to be committed to something and someone other than ourselves. Choose to do more than see it. Act.
I mean so much me…. SO MUCH!
There was a door marked exit
And everyone can tell you
How to grab the knob
Whether to push or pull
How to just take the steps
But the person
On the other side
Who you keep hoping
Sees the entrance.