Its funny. reading the previous post and I started thinking about a perfect example of truth. Some co-workers and I have this email thing we do on a regular basis. One day the question came up about same sex marriage which always leads to sexuality, why wouldn’t it? I waited for some replies to roll through and most of them were against it, siting the bible as the reason. There was no way around it, in order to answer the question I had to give them part of me. I could have chosen not to answer at all but that would have been being dishonest. I had the desire to answer and being one not to bite my tongue for anyone, I did.
This was my answer:
I have never been good at being anything but Dew. I don’t do well with conforming to labels but I will speak on my own personal experience. I believe in God and the savior. I have never been interested in marrying anyone, man or woman. And I have dated both and been proposed to by both. As for same sex marriages if church and state are separate there is no legal reason for same sex couples not to be allowed to marry.
As for homosexuality being a learned behavior, people date and sleep with who they sleep with for different reasons. If you can’t be born gay then you can’t be born straight. Attraction is a fickle thing, no one can explain it. We have all been attracted to some heelah monsters before and wondered why.
I don’t talk about my personal life unless I have a personal relationship with you. And no one ever really asks. They assume they know but no one has ever seen me sleep with a man or woman, so honestly what you think you know is just that. But the point is that wasn’t easy for me to give but it was honest. What had me so reluctant to be honest was the consequence of giving a personal part of myself.
I am a firm believer that who you sleep with at night is your business. Now I’m all up for listening if you want to talk about it but I won’t ask. Not to mention there is this hidden connotation behind having a same sex relationship that changes how some people act around you. Granted these particular coworkers didn’t really change, they leave me off a few emails about the resident hottie other than that though nothing major. But generally the changes are much more grave and a lot more apparent. But again, should the possibilities of these changes keep us from being honest about ourselves?
How many of us live our lives to the convenience of others? I can name at least 6 women in my office who are in relationships with men but have women on the side. (I am only using sexuality as an example here because it requires a knowledge of self and stifled desire.) They do so because they have to keep up appearances. Appearances for who? Truth is a self satisfying ability. Its the consequences from others that make us suffocate truth (in any situation). But if the person you are talking to or about can not accept your truth or Heaven forbid their own, is that someone you really want in your life anyway? And why would you waste time wit someone who can not embrace everything you or your truth have to offer?
As always I don’t have the answers, I’m just trying to get these questions out of my head.